I believe bullying has become a big problem in our society. People do not take this issue seriously because they do not think bullying is a problem. Bullying to me is a problem and something that needs to be stopped. Bullying is a problem that many children experience outside of their home, especially at school. Bullying not only affects children, it also affects adults. The current rules and punishments for bullying in schools are not enough and not enforced. Therefore, it needs to be changed.
Bullying is defined in many ways by several disciplines. It is commonly agreed that bullying is deliberately aggressive or hurtful behavior toward another person that is repeated over time. The common forms of bullying include verbal such as teasing, spreading rumors, or name-calling; physical such as hitting, kicking, or vandalism of someone else’s property, and non-verbal or non-physical bullying such as threats and excluding someone from a group. Out of these forms of bullying, verbal abuse appears to be the most common. About 30 percent of teens in the United States were involved in bullying in some form or fashion. Approximately 25% of elementary and high school students and 40% of middle school students report being bullied at least once per week. My three reasons why bullying is bad is because it could bring the child’s self-esteem down, the child who is being bullied has too much pressure on themselves, and it could lead the child to commit suicide.
My first reason is a child who is regularly bullied can eventually develop low self-esteem. Self-esteem is usually defined as an individual’s perception of themselves. It can also be measured by how much the child appreciates and loves him/her self. A person’s childhood years are very important because it is a time that can affect the formation of his/her self-esteem. If the child is constantly being bullied at school whether it is physically or verbally, then he/she will start to lose confidence in him/her self and might even begin to dislike him/herself for their so called “weaknesses” or “flaws”.
My second reason is the child who is being bullied has too much pressure on themselves. Times like this could be very difficult for children in middle and high school. Many of these children are looking for acceptance and esteem from their peers. Sometimes, when they perceive a lack of acceptance, they isolate themselves, withdraw from school functions, and may exhibit signs of general or specific anxiety. Since bullying can cause stress and depression, the child might cope with these negative emotions by regularly consuming food as a comfort measure and will become less socially active. For fear or being bullied, the child might choose to stay away from any social gatherings. He/she might prefer to stay at home instead and may begin to dislike going to school.
My third and final reason is bullying could lead the child to commit suicide. Bullying is associated with increases in suicide risk in young people who are victims of bullying. As well as increases in depression and other problems associated with suicide, depression is a major factor for suicide. Bullying has long term effects on suicide risk and mental health that can persist into adulthood. This can also cause or contribute to “comparatively low levels of psychological well-being and social adjustment and to high levels of psychological distress and adverse physical health symptoms”.
The general consensus is that bullying is not a problem. Everyday people in the United States are bullied, regardless of their age or background, and that because this happens, people are still able to get on with their lives. If someone is able to go on after being bullied, then each person needs to learn to adjust after this happens. I feel bullying is a problem that doesn’t need to be adjusted to, it needs to erased. People shouldn’t go through life being the subject of bullying, regardless of what form it is in. Our society needs to understand that treating and talking to people in a harmful way has consequences.
Bullying is taught, so if someone can be taught to bully, then they can be taught not to bully. Unfortunately, teaching this new way has to be done when a child is very small. If that child is taught at a young age to treat people respectfully, avoid racism, and understand empathy, that child will be part of a future society that may wipe out bullying completely. Parents and teachers are also involved in this situation of bullying. It is a parent’s job to protect their children in any way that they can and it is a teacher’s job to protect the child while they are in their care. Parents and teachers must learn the signs of bullying and keep an open line of communication with the child so they can help if it’s needed.
Traditional bullying and cyber bullying is extremely common throughout schools and is a major problem that needs attention. The fault in finding solutions to this problem is that no one has come up with a successful solution to resolve the situation. Bullying is continuing to grow and ways to control and regulate the problem are trying to be found, but there are many different ways to approach the situation. In two articles, “Why Our Approach to Bullying Is Bad” by Susan Porter and “Cyberbullying” by Caralee Adams, both authors discuss different strategies as to how bullying can be controlled, while Porter focuses on the psychological aspect of bullying and Adams focuses on different steps from parents and school officials that can offer guidance to end bullying. In the article “Why Our Approach to Bullying Is Bad,” published in Independent School in Winter 2013, Susan Porter discusses that bullying is naturally inclined to occur, and it is almost impossible to get rid of it, but it can be limited. Porter takes a different approach and explains that bullying occurs because of preadolescent and adolescent brains, which are not fully developed. This means that adolescents are not able to fully control themselves, which can cause bullying. Porter describes that brains at an adolescents age are “prone to misinterpreting facial cues” and “tend to respond very emotionally to social situations.” With both of these aspects, it can cause the child to not be able to handle themselves in certain situations, causing them to lash out or take things too personally. To manage the bullying situation, Porter thinks that the term